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Julie Margaret's avatar

Izzy's mom here, love your musings, occasion has one S. Interesting start to a long, long conversation. I feel funny in a hat in church in New England. I feel funny without one in the south or at a wedding in London. I always wore them in LA to protect the sun from my face -- that movie director look -- until my mom and therapist decided I should try a year off (for different reasons), and now I have age spots and a freckle line on my forehead where there would have been none. I don't know, Mr. Zelden. I think it would be time well spent to re-teach ourselves and each other what the Mass truly is -- and then ask ourselves how we would dress for the memorial of someone who saved our lives -- especially if He's actually not dead and present there with us and can see us! So if the hats can't go to church, should the sneakers, shorts, and hoodies? Don't get me started on the crying babies and too loud toddlers. I think the dress-up at Latin Mass is fascinating -- and then the pocket watches come out and the beards get long and I start to wonder what's happening here... What was the conclusion of the Broken Window policies in NYC's subways? Clean it up and people will behave better! I'm not sure if that proved true. Would love to think it did. Great conversation!

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Paula's avatar

Hello! I do agree with you that it would be nice if we were dressier as a society - I think it does make a difference in how we think and act. And I regret that you were personally attacked for sharing such an opinion - I don’t think such responses are good for our culture either.

However, I also think that if what you shared above is the full tweet, it should perhaps be considered that this was not a ‘tweet that dared suggest we should de-slobbify.’ There was no context within the tweet to suggest that. Even having the background of your thoughts after reading this post, when I read the original tweet, all it seems to say that wearing a ball cap is undignified, unstylish, and suggests a certain obliviousness. And if that’s what you meant, fair enough. That is a legitimate opinion. But you know what? Most of the men I know and love wear ball caps at least some of the time, and they’re not any of those things. They’re good men who have embraced adulthood with all its joys and trials - and when I see this tweet, I think of them and it just kind of makes me sad. So while I don’t at all agree with the vitriol, I do think I can understand why people might have been upset by the tweet as it stood.

Just my thoughts, for whatever they may or may not be worth on a Tuesday morning. Have a good one. :-)

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